The truth is, and this may be nerdy, but I not-so-secretly love keeping track of how I spend my money! I know that’s foreign to some, but I absolutely love making sure I have enough in my account to do the things I want to in life.
My husband and I had a short engagement, and we paid for much (not all–thanks mom and dad!!!) of our own wedding. Which didn’t necessarily leave funds in the bank account for an extravagant honeymoon.
Don’t get me wrong. We had an awesome week in Charleston, SC, and that place is expensive! So we did spend some money, honey! But it wasn’t what we would have spent if we added in airfare to an exotic location.
(pics from the honeymoon…we had such a restful week!)
I was a little bummed about not leaving the country (#firstworldprobz), because I so love to travel and a honeymoon is a perfect excuse. So Roger and I set a goal to go to Greece for our first year anniversary. This is one of two financial short-term goals that we have for the upcoming year.
(the latest Greece pin on my pinterest!)
In marriage, I’m finding there is no “his money” and “my money.” It’s OUR money. Period. And what we’ve had trouble adjusting to is the fact that sometimes we still spend like it’s our individual money. We’ll buy things on a whim without thinking (while the other isn’t around, might I add). It’s happened a few times in the past few weeks. We’re not talking budget-breaking purchases, but purchases none-the-less. Purchases that can take away from even our short-term financial goals.
I found myself last week becoming the budget Nazi! For real! I was getting onto Roger for spending money out of our limited miscellaneous budget when I had done the same thing just last month–on a pair of boots in this impractical color that I definitely didn’t need!
(but aren’t they adorable?!?!)
Sometimes I catch myself trying to follow the budget perfectly. But of course this is an illusion. There will be some months where heat is more than others (hello…winter!), and there will be some months where things come up that Roger and I weren’t expecting. Instead of being so hard on ourselves for our little splurges here and there, I need to remember that we will get there one day.
I need to not only have grace with Roger, but with myself also. And patience that even though we didn’t save as much last month as I would have liked, November is a new month and a new chance to do better. We’re both still new at this “our money” business, but I do believe we’ll learn to live more simply. And then, sticking to the budget wouldn’t be #thestruggle! lol